WILFRIED KNIGHT: ‘I AM JUST AS GOOD, IF NOT BETTER THAN YOU.”
I only met Wilfried a few times, but he wasn’t an ordinary porn star. A few years back, I had dinner with Wilfried Knight at a private home, and he talked about things you don’t often hear at a business dinner in the porn industry: European vs US law, holistic health, the injustice of immigration policy. While he had concerns about what was going on in the business, he seemed to be someone who had successfully integrated his life (school, business) with what he regarded as a good-paying hobby (porn). He’s one of the last people I thought I’d have toRIP here.
What concerned him most, however, was injustice for gay people, particularly inheritance rights. And ultimately, that’s what killed him.
(photo: Pierre et Gilles, 2009)
What’s clear is this: Wilfried wasn’t conflicted about his porn past, he was outraged about the anti-gay sentiment he found after the suicide of his partner Jerry (“my partner left clear signs he wanted me to die with him, to follow him, therefore had no will after our nine years relationship.”) After his partner’s death, he lost the house in Portland, was rejected by his partner’s family, and worried over visa issues. Wilfried spent his last few updates railing against he partner’s company (Lululemon) and family. The only thing that bothered him about porn was other people’s reactions to it.
“A “porn star” only happens to live and expose it in public. It hits each and everyone of us, even the ones who pretend to be humble, or for example even the ones that pretend they only work out for their health. We all want to look good, to be noticed. Even this shy french boy named Wilfried born now 28….ok, fine, 38 years ago. I was truly ordinary, probably still am in my own way. I took the right assumed path that made my parents proud: excelled and achieved at school, did learn to be good to another, but thankfully escaped the religious BS that sometimes comes with such a respectable upbringing, meaning: I was not bred to be a hypocrite. Something always had been burning inside of me: I always knew there was more to life than just fitting in.
Thriving to be rightful slowed me down, then after a bad relationship and a nasty brush with cancer, I realized there was only one life ahead of me. Why wait? I loved sex, I loved men, so if I had to be promiscuous, why not be paid for it??! And here I am, almost 10 years, several awards down the line, I am still going strong and loving every minute of it. A very lucky man, I have worked with all the best performers and companies, and i do not see myself as finished just yet. It is only my fourth retirement tour, I have few more to go don’t it? And when it is all over, well, two degrees I completed during my career will prevent me from a painful fall back down to reality.”
As was always his concern, Knight was upset over the injustice with gay marriage laws. He spent his last days fighting that injustice. Let’s hope that his fight wasn’t in vain by hand-wringing over aging porn stars.
(photo by Joe Oppedisano)
Wilfried Knight (1974-2013)